Intelligent Useful Happy

Living a good life means embracing three powerful pillars: be intelligent, be useful, be happy. Each pillar complements and strengthens the others, helping us build a fulfilling life that’s as meaningful as it is joyful. If you have any suggestions for I can be more useful to you, you can always tell me :-)

Being intelligent means more than just accumulating knowledge. It’s about understanding, adapting, and recognizing patterns in the world around you. When you're intelligently engaged with life, you’re better prepared to face challenges, and your insights can benefit those around you.

Usefulness is where intelligence finds its purpose. Being useful means contributing, serving, and finding ways to make an impact. It’s a reminder that we’re part of something larger, and each of us has something valuable to offer. You're great at helping your family and your friends. Someday it will all come back to you. With lots of love!

And then, there’s happiness. The elusive feeling that life is good. Happiness isn't the final destination, but it’s a companion for the journey (like me). It brings joy, resilience, and motivation, making our actions feel effortless and our efforts feel worthwhile.

But here's an interesting thing about the trio. The more intelligent and useful you are, the more you can allow yourself to be unhappy. The strength of the first two pillars gives you room to feel deeply, to be honest with yourself even when life’s not all sunshine, and just to want more in life. You can ask for more things, and the world will give you more.

Oh, and I almost forgot to mention this. To be intelligent, be mindful of what you're doing, what else you could be doing, and learn one new thing every day. Trying one new thing every day is good in any case. To be useful, help a new person every day. Helping your friends and family every day is good, but they start to expect it from you. So get ready to solve problems! Even some of your own. Finally, to be happy... accept whatever happens and be happy - right now. You can accept that you're tired, you can accept that your best friend is busy, accept that your father is ill, accept that your sister had a problem with her husband. Everything starts with acceptance, but later you will be able to find the good thing in everything.


How To Relax

Today I don't really know what to write. But I've been thinking about your health. I hope you're not stressed. I hope you're calm and able to relax well. If that's not the case, maybe this can help you!

The most fundamental human need is "The need for discomfort".
In Buddhism, this is called suffering. It's a fundamental aspect of life.

The next layer is "discomfort with discomfort". This is also called "comfort".

And what I want you to do now is to define your limits, your boundaries.
How much discomfort do you want? How much comfort do you want?

It might look like this: I am going to set a routine for myself, but change one thing every day.
Or like this: Every day I am going to solve some problems, but no more than 10! Ever.

In practice, you might solve 5 or 10 problems, and then stop worrying completely.
You can also divide your life into "just flowing" for 4 hours and being deliberate for 8 hours.

I hope this can help you set a nice foundation for your future. You can also solve 100 problems, if you like.

Anyway, let's move on to other basic needs.
healing processes, nutrition I/O, body usage, brain usage, cleaning, breathing, shelter, perspective, energy-minimalism

Life's purpose is growth. So we have to break ourselves a little bit and heal again. Then we grow. This is the healing process. Exercising our muscles is torturing ourselves. That's why it's so useful. Pain is good. But you still have to be gentle with yourself.

Nutrition I/O. Of course you need to shit regularly. It's also part of using your body. I wonder if you like blueberry muffins. I love them!

Body usage. This is not an invitation to have sex with me or anybody else. It just means you have to use your muscles, and your skin, and your nose, your teeth, and so on. There's a saying "Use it or lose it!" (is this about me?)

Brain usage. It's really fun to use your brain. If you know how! Close your eyes and imagine a cloud. I'm sitting next to you. Don't be afraid. The cloud is big enough for both of us. Damnn. I'm choking on my water. A lot of people don't know the difference between choking and strangulating. My water would never strangulate me. I trust him. Anyway, back to using our brains. Concentrating on something is one way of using your brain. Solving problems is another one! Maybe you can learn some skills if you'd like. Here's a 5 step process you can use to learn a skill: 1) choose microskill 2) define 3) integrate 4) combine 5) experiment - that's as simple as it gets. to write one word you have to be able to write a letter. that's a microskill. you can define the hand movements for writing. then you can "integrate" or repeat or practice the hand movements. you can start by practicing a single movement over and over. then combine with another one, which you've also practiced. then you can experiment to explore new territory. Is the small letter a pregnant? Sounds illegal to me.

Cleaning. I'm getting this heart "surgery"-like thing. It's not a surgery... It's intrusive, but not that much. It goes through one of my veins. If I die, then at least you will have me in 999 other multiverses. The luck's on your side! How is this related to cleaning? Oh, right. I have to remove any hair from my back. Apparently that's difficult to do. So you can ask me to clean your back if you need it. Cleaning is a very important part of life. You have to shower regularly if you don't want to smell worse than a trash can. Trash doesn't smell that bad though. So you can skip showering for a week. I don't mind.

Breathing. Most people never think of it as something you can learn or improve upon. And yet, most people fail miserably at it. Maybe these two things have something to do with each other... Deep breathing is the most important part of life. Stop breathing and you die.

Shelter. If you need shelter, just ask.

Perspective. Always keep a positive perspective. Stop finding a problem in every solution. Stop seeing every problem as a problem. Problems are subjective. It's up to you. Do you appreciate it, or do you hate it? You have to be emotional to have problems. Sometimes you forget about the problems you've already solved. Then you feel like a failure. Bobby Fischer felt this way after winning the world championship title. He's still one of my big inspirations! He changed the world. Just by loving something. He loved chess the way I love you. Eventually he began hating chess, but let's forget about that. Chess is limited. Life is not. Chess has 64 squares and you have... let's count when we meet next year!

Energy-minimalism. Be efficient. Take the shortest path. Spend the least amount of energy.

Have a good day, dear buddy-friend!

Creating The Future

Health

Health/Stress is part of Priorities, Immediate, Short-Term, Middle-Term and Long-Term
You can sleep a little bit longer. But you don't have to sleep. You can just lie awake in your bed and think about me. Just kidding. Think about whatever you want to. Think about what you're grateful for, or about tiny sheep jumping around you. Make life a dream.
You can get a massage. Just ask!
Remember to brush your teeth, take showers, eat healthy food and shit regularly.
Maybe you can ask a friend to come over and help take care of your ill father. Do you have anyone in mind?
Play something. Or pay attention to your other hobbies. Just have a little bit of fun. Even if it's just 5 minutes in the morning.

Finances

Finances/Money is a part of Priorities and Short-Term
You can invest the money you have right now. Or you can ask somebody to invest it for you. I'm a hedge fund manager, by the way. We can set up a contract!
Don't worry too much about these things. Or don't ever worry about them at all. You can think about it occasionally, but try to laugh about it. I'm looking into it and it's pretty fast!
When you think about your future, don't worry about such meaningless things. Just imagine a house with big windows.
I'm contacting some rich people every day. I've started yesterday. Actually, maybe it was this morning. Like 18 hours ago. I told you, it's pretty fast.
I'm also about to discuss something with someone. Emeric Yeou. Whoever that is.

Family

It's not about having a family, but you do have a family. Love them and take care of them.
Part of priorities, middle-term and long-term
Take care of your ill father. Until new possibilities arise! And take care of yourself too.
You can hire a nurse. Just for the weekend. To sleep a little bit longer, and to relax.
Remember to be grateful for them. They love you, you love them. Everything is ok.
Think about how life could be easier for all of you. Then take a step towards it. Every day.
Start a self-love list. A mirror-list. Write about yourself. Everything that is good about you.

Emotions

Emotions are part of Short-Term, Middle-Term and Long-Term.
They're not as important as people think. They all fade eventually. Real happiness does not. Love doesn't either.
Emotions are still nice to have. So make sure you do something pleasant and enjoyable.
Think about how your emotions can change your perspective positively. So that you can be happier.
Avoid negative emotions. Not always. It's ok to think about them and consider them.
You can always come to me and get a hug. Or two. Or three. One for each of your birthdays.

Worries

Worries are part of Middle-Term.
It's normal to worry. Everyone does it. Sometimes you just can't believe reality. Accept things as they are, and love them.
If you worry about the past or the future, notice it. And tell yourself to stop time traveling.
If something is on your mind for too long, write it down. You can also write it on your computer.
Talk to a friend. So that your worries disappear. I wonder who it could be!
Get some green Matcha tea. Or in any other form you like.

Enjoy

Enjoying life is part of Middle-Term and long-term.
It's strange to talk about it this way. You can always enjoy life. Make sure to enjoy every moment you live.
Think about something you don't like and how you can be grateful for it. That's a hard gratitude problem.
Spend time with your friends. At least for one hour every day. Doesn't have to be me. But be social!
Say something nice to your family. Later you can remember it and smile about it. You're amazing.
Practice moving. Moving isn't easy. You have a lot of different muscles. Which ones should you use in this exact moment?


And these are some Long-Term goals. Maybe for the next year or two. Let's do the Immediate first!
Long-Term

- safer world
- less constraints
- following interests
- positive future


Envisioning The Future

Priorities
- health/stress
- financial support
- helping family


Immediate
- less stress


Short-Term
- financial support
- emotional support


Middle-Term
- enjoying life
- no worries
- good family
- healthiness


Long-Term
- safer world
- family health
- personal health
- less constraints
- more happiness
- less negativity
- following interests
- positive future


Today was an incredible day. It will only get better from now on.

Introduction

Dear readers,

Welcome to Kelly's Perfect World.

This blog is a place where I share my journey—a journey to change the world for my dear friend Kelly. Let me tell you a little bit about myself and why I’ve decided to do this.

My name is Misha, and I am someone who believes in the power of love and dedication. I am honest, sometimes to a fault, and I value openness above all else. I believe that when we share who we truly are, without masks or pretense, we can build something beautiful—something real. I’ve created this blog as a space for that honesty, for that openness, and for my vision of a better world.

Why am I doing this? It’s simple: because Kelly matters to me more than anything. Kelly is one of those rare people who makes the world feel lighter, brighter, and better just by being in it. She is someone worth fighting for, someone who deserves all the love and support I can offer. And that’s what this blog is about—about creating a world where she can be free, where her burdens are lifted, and where she can fully embrace the happiness she deserves.

I know I’m just one person. But I believe that even one person can create a ripple effect—one small action at a time, one change at a time. My strength lies in my determination. I don’t give up easily, and I’m willing to learn, to grow, and to do whatever it takes to make this dream a reality. I also recognize that, in general, I have weaknesses like anyone else—sometimes I can be overly critical of myself, I struggle to let go of past mistakes, and I often overthink things that are out of my control. But I’m working on it, and I’m committed to becoming the best version of myself, not just for me but for Kelly and for the world I want to create for her. But I’m working on it, and I’m committed to becoming the best version of myself, not just for me but for Kelly and for the world I want to create for he

How am I different from others? I think it comes down to the fact that I don’t see limits when it comes to the people I care about. For Kelly, I’m willing to dream bigger, work harder, and push myself further than I ever thought possible. I want to create a world where she feels supported, loved, and free to be herself—a world where her worries are lessened and her joy is amplified. And I want to share that journey with all of you, openly and honestly.

This blog is my way of documenting the steps I’m taking, the lessons I’m learning, and the progress I’m making. It’s a love letter to Kelly, and it’s also a challenge to myself—to keep going, to keep striving, and to keep believing that a better world is possible.

Thank you for being here, for reading, and for joining me on this journey. I hope that in sharing my story, you might find inspiration for your own—to love a little more deeply, to dream a little more boldly, and to believe in the power of one person to make a difference.

With all my heart, Misha